The #1 Confidence Mistake Women Entrepreneurs Make (and How to Fix It Today)

#LeadandLift | Episode 130 | Chabidaye Jaglal Ramnath

Still Waiting for Someone to Tell You You’re Ready? 

You’re ambitious. You’re smart. You’re building something amazing.
But deep down, you still catch yourself hesitating…

• Before you post your offer
• Before you raise your prices
• Before you claim your space like the expert you already are

You tell yourself you need more proof. More experience.
Or maybe—just maybe—someone to say:

“You’re good enough. Go for it.”

If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone.

In this powerful episode of the Lead and Lift podcast, host Chabidaye Jaglal Ramnath dives into the #1 confidence mistake women entrepreneurs make—the hidden habit that’s holding you back from the success and impact you’re meant for.

The Real Confidence Killer? Waiting for Permission

Whether it’s from a mentor, a client, or even a friend…
So many women entrepreneurs are secretly waiting for external validation before they make their next move.

Maybe you’re offering free coaching when your results prove you should be charging premium prices.
Maybe you’re building a program only after someone buys it—hoping that’ll make it feel more “real.”
Maybe you keep telling yourself:

“Once I’m more experienced… then I’ll show up fully.”

Here’s the truth: Waiting for permission is the fastest way to stall your growth. 

Chabidaye shares a story from a recent coaching call. Her client—smart, driven, and skilled—was stuck in the loop of “I’m not ready.”
She said:

• “Who am I to charge that much?”
• “I need someone to tell me I’m ready.”
• “What if they don’t take me seriously?”

Sound familiar?
Here’s what helped her shift… and what will help you too.

So What Is Confidence, Really?

Confidence isn’t a personality trait.
It’s not something you’re born with—or something you earn after enough success.
Confidence is a skill. And like any skill, it can be built.

It’s the belief in your own ability to figure it out.
It’s knowing your worth—even when you're still growing.
It’s the muscle that gets stronger the more you use it.

And yes, you may feel confident in one area and shaky in another. That’s normal.
But the key? Don’t wait until you feel ready. 

Imagine This…

• You launch your offer without second-guessing it
• You pitch the client or raise your prices without guilt
• You act like the CEO of your own life and business—because you ARE

Confidence grows through action, not contemplation.
And action starts when you give yourself the green light

Here’s How to Fix It: 3 Actions to Build Confidence Now

1. Decide That You Are Already Enough

🔹 Why: Confidence doesn’t come from someone else telling you you’re worthy. It comes from deciding you are—right now, as you are.
You’re not behind. You’re not less than. You’re you—and that’s powerful.

🔹 Action:
Write down 3 reasons why you’re already qualified to succeed.
Is it your experience? Your lived story? The people you’ve helped?
Keep this list visible and review it every time doubt shows up.

2. Take Courageous Action Before You Feel Ready

🔹 Why: Confidence follows courage—not the other way around.
That first Instagram video? Scary.
Raising your rates? Uncomfortable.
But you survived. And every step made you stronger.

🔹 Action:
Pick one bold move you’ve been putting off—launching your website, increasing your price, pitching your idea—and do it within the next 24 hours.

No waiting. No perfect moment. Just action.

3. Create Your Own Validation with a “Confidence Wins” Journal

🔹 Why: You don’t need someone else’s praise to know you’re winning.
You need proof—your own proof.
Because what gets celebrated, gets repeated.

"The only validation you need is the results you create, not other people's opinion." - Chabidaye Jaglal Ramnath

🔹 Action:
Start a “Confidence Wins” journal.
Every time you do something that stretches you—write it down.
Whether it’s a client result, a pitch sent, or an uncomfortable risk taken—track your growth.
Watch your belief grow with it.

You Don’t Need Permission. You Need Momentum.

Too many brilliant, capable women are waiting for someone else to say:

“You’re ready.”
“You’re good enough.”
“You’ve earned it.”

But you already have. 

You don’t need a permission slip.
You need a mirror—and the courage to tell yourself:

“I’m the CEO. I decide.”

You’ve got the vision. The skills. The fire.
Now give yourself the green light. 🚦

🎯 Your Challenge This Week:

What’s one thing you’ve been hesitating on because you were waiting for validation?

✅ Hit publish.
✅ Send the pitch.
✅ Launch the thing.

Do it today. No one is coming to hand you your confidence.
You build it every time you take bold action.
And the only permission you need?  YOU!

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Links mentioned in this episode: 

• Chabidaye Facebook
• Chabidaye Instagram
• Chabidaye LinkedIn
• Chabidaye Website