What's the World's #1 Skill?
#LeadandLift | Episode 92 | Chabidaye Jaglal Ramnath
The world’s number one skill isn’t accounting, leadership, or parenting - though those are some of the most essential skills in life. The world’s number one skill is coaching and mastering this is the key to good self-leadership and creating a positive influence on others’ lives.
"Coaching is an influence process that leads to discovery, decision-making, performance improvement, and better living". Brendon Burchard
The Coaching Process
Personally, a lot of the clients I have had came to me feeling like they’ve lost their way or that they feel distracted and scattered by all the opportunities that are trying to pull them into many different directions.
As a certified high-performance coach, one of the first sessions I take clients through is called focal points. The goal of going through this session is to help them understand where they need to focus in order to get to that next level. Through that process, we’re able to make decisions on what things ought to be focused on.
Opportunities are often lost because people have to make a decision but keep putting it off. That’s why decision-making is important in the coaching process.
Clarity and good decision-making will lead to an improvement in your performance. You get to define what performance improvement means to you, whether that’s in your career, your life, at home, at work, or even, your health.
In coaching, we don’t gauge or guess your progress when it comes to performance improvement, we actually measure it. This is so that you can clearly see how far you’re going and at what rate your performance is being improved.
If you start performing better and producing better results, then we both win. You win, and I win as a coach.
High-performance Success
It wouldn’t be as good to get to the top if you had to lose your health and your connection with everyone that matters in your life along the way. Success is only ever worth it if you can maintain your health and your relationships.
In high-performance coaching, we don’t aim for success just for the sake of success. We create systems of self-improvement so that you can reach your meaning of success while also being able to have a deeper and closer relationship with the people that you love.
High-performance coaching has a 9.7 out of 10 satisfaction rating in over 60 countries around the world, making it the highest-rated program in history.
Why I Chose to go to the Coaching Summit
There are three reasons why I chose to go to the Coaching Summit. The first reason is that it is my career and it is what I am. There are different levels in the journey toward mastery and I am on a journey to become a world-class coach. That’s why I’m always learning and constantly leveling up my skills and knowledge.
Also, being in that room was special. There were about 2,000 people in there with me who wanted to change the world and create a positive ripple effect of goodness and each one of us was doing it by working on ourselves first. Because if we can’t improve ourselves, we can’t help anybody else improve.
The second reason is that I wanted to get to the next level in my coaching skills. We are all human, and just like you, I feel discouraged, I feel afraid, and sometimes I have a lack of confidence. The imposter syndrome kicks in because I’m learning, and growing, and doing new things. As I train in coaching and practice it, I learn more and more about myself and the things that I need to improve on. By learning to work on those items with myself and with my own coaches, I’m able to help others change their state of mind, move forward faster, and achieve their goals.
I’m not only trying to see if it works on me before I try it on my clients but because I know it works. I’ve seen it work in the lives of others and in my own life so I share this gift in order to help my clients reach their next level.
The third reason why I went is the most important reason. I went there because of the network and the environment. There is a great benefit in having a community of like-minded people who are on the same journey as you.
I’ve met people who are far ahead of me, and that’s incredible. I’ve met people who are behind me, and that gives me the opportunity to lean back and support them. I’ve also met people who are in the exact same place as me which reminds me that I’m not alone. I am on a journey with a community that understands the struggles that I face and is there to cheer me on when I bring home some wins.
Creating Progress
There was one huge thing that stood out for me in Brendon’s summit and it was a million-dollar phrase that Brendon has tried and has encouraged us to also do in our coaching with our clients. However, I also found that even if you are not a coach, it would bring a lot of value to ask yourself this question:
What is the next right move for me?
With clarity, you are able to take action. Not having clarity will lead to procrastination and inaction. When you find yourself stuck, this is a good question to ask yourself. This question doesn’t imply any judgment of where you are right now or whatever it is that you are struggling with where you are right now, all it asks is what is the next right move for you or what is the next best step that you can take.
If we are able to help each other or help ourselves take the next step, we make progress. Progress builds momentum and momentum builds up speed so that you can get to where you want to be faster.
Moving out of the State of Complaining
The second aha moment is that we’re surrounded by people who complain, so how do we move people away from that and help them start looking forward to the future and look at the good things that are coming up? There are three strategic moves for that.
The first is clarity. A lot of times, people might be complaining because they don’t have clarity, they don’t understand the process, so they can’t take action. That is frustrating, I know from personal experience.
Just the other day, I found myself complaining about a process because I didn’t have clarity on what to do. I called somebody and asked them to explain it to me because I didn’t understand it.
Clarity is a shift that happens in your mind and it changes how you look at your current situation or problem that you are faced with.
The second strategy is habits. Habits are very powerful and that’s why in high-performance coaching, the first 12 weeks we spend together are focused on building six habits that have helped most successful people become extraordinary.
When we constantly complain about things in life, that becomes a habit. When it comes to habits, it doesn’t matter what is in front of us. We fall into our habits automatically.
Part of helping people move out of the habit of complaining is to find ways to change that habit. Break the complaining and replace it with something else.
The third move is changing your environment. If you’re in an environment where all people do all day long is complain, you’re going to start doing it pretty soon because that’s all you hear about. I’ve been in the corporate space and I know what it’s like. It becomes difficult to not join in with the complaining when everybody is doing it and everyone is doing it constantly.
Shifting from that environment will help us tremendously in shifting our habits from complaining to doing something more worthwhile. Also, it’s very difficult to work on yourself in this area when you are surrounded daily by people who are not interested in breaking the habit of complaining.
The Two Choices You have in Every Moment
At every moment you have two choices, you can choose to survive or you can choose to be extraordinary. A common issue with most people is that they just want to survive and get by. When some people experience dissatisfaction or unhappiness with their work or finances, they tell themselves that all they’ve got to do is survive. This is most common in the corporate environment where the average worker is only trying to get by until Friday.
That’s not what you want to be. You don’t want to just be an average person or someone who’s just barely good enough because you can do better. You can make a difference.
People who choose to take the journey to become extraordinary choose to learn and grow so that they can deal with life’s problems and transcend them. One guarantee we can have in life is that we’re going to have a lot of problems but if we’re learning and constantly growing, we can deal with it and we can see beyond life’s problems.
We can have dreams and goals again and it allows us when a problem comes up to have a vision beyond that problem and to not get stuck in it.
“The problem is not permanent. It's just there for a while. And then once we deal with it, there's more to life than that. The two choices we have every moment: we can survive or we can choose to become extraordinary.”
Curing Your Chronic Busyness
Ask yourself this question: does your time management lead to the outcome that you want in life?
Everybody has dreams, everyone has something that they’d rather be doing right now and one of the most common excuses that people have is that they are too busy or that they don’t have time. They think to themselves, “I want to do something different. But I need to pay my bills.”
The reality is that everybody gets the same 24 hours that you and I get. Successful people don’t have more time than we do, they are given the same exact hours, and yet they are able to become successful and they are able to maintain their success. Their secret is time management.
You do have time, but perhaps you don’t know how to utilize the time that you have in order to achieve the things that you want.
Take the first step. Go back through your week and set some metrics. What are you spending your time on? How many hours in your day are actually spent on something meaningful or productive?
Creating Multiple Income Streams
One of the lessons that some of us have learned from COVID is that we need to have multiple streams of income.
Back in 2014, I only had one stream of income. Then, I was laid off. At the time, I didn’t know that there was such a thing as having multiple streams of income. I had bills to pay, kids in daycare and a mortgage. I had to get myself a job and I had to do it quickly.
When you lose your one stream of income, sometimes, you lose some of your choices and you have to do things that you may not want to. So my one piece of advice is for you to be curious and discover how you can develop multiple streams of income.
Learn new skills, grow in your knowledge, and build up expertise. Don’t wait until you lose your main stream of income.
What industry are you in? Are you learning and growing in that industry? Are you choosing to survive or to become extraordinary?
If you’re tired of surviving and you want to become extraordinary, reach out to me and let me help you because we each have the ability to lead and lift others.
Gift For YOU!
Do you feel you’re being as productive, influential and successful as you want to?
Are you struggling to stay focused, to get ahead, or to better influence your team or customers?
Have you reached a plateau in your progress and struggled to breakthrough to the next level of joy, power and achievement? I can help!
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Chabidaye Jaglal Ramnath
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Hi! I'm Chabidaye Jaglal Ramnath, your Certified High Performance Coach. You know when high achieving moms in leadership desire more joy, fulfillment and confidence in their personal life and business? I deliver that through high performance coaching. I am so happy that our paths have crossed!
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